Introducing Generation Me

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Introducing Generation Me, by Jean Twenge

 

Lost in a Confusing Morass

Let’s introduce Generation Me: by Jean M Twenge. This book explores and reveals the cultural universe of the current young generation that is pushing into adulthood right now and reveals their character, strengths and struggles, with especial focus on helpful comparisons with previous generations; baby-boomers (both leading and trailing edge,) and Gen X. Twenge explores individuality and the rejection of rules, depression and sex, finances, jobs, education and fears. Through the use of massive studies, scholarly and popular writing, Google and culturally iconic movie quotes, she delicately opens the bomb casing of today’s twenty-somethings, (and thirty-somethings) and we get to peer inside and see what makes this generation tick. Her penetrating evaluation exposes the cultural forces that shaped and molded Generation Me, or, as Prince might say, the generation formerly known as Millennials.

The value of this book is understanding to facilitate meaningful engagement. Each generation brings its own perspective to the world, and for us to bring the gospel into the lives of each generation, we need to understand the people to whom we speak, their heart motivations, fears, and priorities, in order to garner the highest impact. Fortunately, the gospel is always relevant and penetrating to every culture, but people and cultures change. In the context of 21st Century Apologetics, this book will expand our understanding of our milieu and the messagees, those people who need to hear the gospel.

Let’s also contemplate our message. At the core, we present THE gospel; Sinful and needy mankind, loving and just God, salvation through faith in the finished work of Jesus Christ; new heart, transformed life, nuanced a thousand ways. The Holy Spirit then quickens the elect, and we rejoice at the grace and mercy of God. In many ways, presenting “the gospel” is all we really need to do. That is what we are called to do. At the same time, we need to make sure that we package the core message in a way that makes sense to Gen Me. The assumptions and preconceptions and the vocabulary of earlier generations are a foreign language now. Things that were taken for granted in the past don’t even exist in the 21st century cultural dictionary.

Consider the following statement from Twenge’s discussion of Moral Individualism, where each person believes that “morality is a personal choice:” “When asked if people have a moral responsibility or duty to help others, one young person said, ‘No, not really.’” (Twenge, page 30.) On the surface this is surprising, but not alarming until you gain some context: “Today’s under-35 young people are the real Me Generation, or, as I call them, Generation Me. Born after self-focus entered the cultural mainstream, this generation has never known a world that put duty before self.” (Italics mine – Twenge, page. 2.) The eye opener here is that calling the “no, not really,” youth to a sense of duty is similar to trying to convince a blind person that they should really prefer driving a blue car over a red one. How do you appeal to someone with the Golden rule when to them, other people aren’t just irrelevant, but invisible? Right and wrong don’t even exist in a world where the only criteria for making a choice is, “What I want,” or “What makes me feel good.” In the past, people wanted proof that the gospel is truth, Gen Me doesn’t even have a concept of truth, and certainly they hold no commitment to truth as some kind of absolute “out there” that can be learned; or that is worth searching for. Their entire lives have been built on the foundation that “truth” is what you find in yourself. We need a new dictionary and a new language.

We need God’s wisdom to speak, we need God’s wisdom to understand.

It is always dangerous when looking at an age group, whether it is your own, or someone else’s to say, “That generation is, let’s say, selfish, or unapproachable, or gullible.” For example, not every 28 year old today is narcissistic. But, for the sake of those who don’t know, let’s ponder Snapchat and selfies. Snapchat is a phone application that allows you to send pictures that you take out to the Internet-connected world. As of March, 2019, over 400 million people have Snapchat accounts, sending over 90 million images every day, of which, about three quarters are selfies. Now selfies, for us old folks, are pictures that you take of yourself. As a person who grew up taking pictures of others from behind the camera, on film, this concept is inexplicable. But before we get lost, let’s ponderize and observate and summarize; there are an awful lot of people out there who are self-absorbed. (And you can multiply Snapchat by Facebook raised to the power of Pinterest plus Instagram.) We are forcibly dragged to conclude that although any individual might not be selfish, or unapproachable, or gullible, it is clear that there is a body of activity taking place in our world, in general, that gives us an indication of some driving heart issues. And more importantly, all of this picture sharing activity is closely connected to tendencies of the heart, priorities and commitments, and sin and enslavement. In the end, we need to observe careful observations and conclude intelligent conclusions. Even if a specific 28-year-old isn’t narcissistic, there are a LOT of 28-year-olds who are and every 28 year old, even the selfless ones, lives in a swamp of self-interest and self-focus.

This raises a lot of questions for a Christian. (And keep in mind that what we really long for is for everyone to share in the delight of glorifying God and enjoying him forever!) What is the impact of Snapchat? (Or social media?) Why would someone want to post selfies for friends and strangers to look at? What is in the heart of a people who would even want to put pictures of themselves “out there?” How does this daily, repetitive, irresistible activity change the heart of the person who does it? What drives this person? What are they worshipping? What happens to a culture that is so driven by endless posts and memes? How does this activity (obsession?) impinge on a person’s view of God? What does the gospel have to offer to help us understand? And ultimately, what do we do? What do we say?

This is why we need to understand our world and culture, and Generation Me offers a world of insights that will guide us.

The value of Secular Scholarship

Twenge summarizes numerous massive studies, tests, interviews, and evaluations. The data spans 60, 70, even 100 years. Often the evaluation compares thousands of young people who were teenagers in 1975 to other teenagers in 2005 and then even more teenagers from 2015. How do the responses change to the same questions as we move through the generations? Other tools give the same tests to the same body of people when they are 14, 34, and then 54, showing how perspectives have change within the same population. Her insights span the priorities presented in movies or popular songs, or what the most searched motivational phrase is on Google. The observations come from directed studies and from tracked behaviors. In the end, what the book provides is the culmination of crunching a lot of data on people past and present.

Let’s be clear right up front – this book is not written from a Christian perspective; the author makes no claim to any religious or moral perspective. This should not, however, deter us in any way. Although the author doesn’t ever really say that, for example, the pervasive cultural selfishness is wrong, she does list a number of inevitable and observable consequences of selfishness and points out the painful, or positive(?) results. For example, she identifies that Gen Me tends to be more lonely because they won’t commit to relationships because they don’t want to be limited or stifled or to have their own wants put on hold or jeopardized for someone else. Is this good? Is this bad? The author doesn’t say. Another example: her conclusions about the overwhelming sexual promiscuity of Gen Me are utterly bereft of any moral sense. She assesses the empty and persistent sexual activity as a generational difference, nothing more. There it is; it just is.

And perhaps her lack of any moral center is all to our advantage. By reading this book, we aren’t just gaining penetrating insights into what is happening in our culture and the driving attitudes of an entire generation, we are also gaining a deep understanding of what a non-Christian thinks about these moral issues. What better way to build a strategy for sharing the gospel than having someone tip their hand and show us all their cards of life? The gospel is the answer to every question, but we need to know what people are asking, not asking, or ignoring.

Certainly, we should be angry that an entire generation has been misled into debilitating perspectives of self and sin. But moreover, we should be moved to pity and compassion. This generation of millions isn’t just voters or consumers, to be manipulated for political or mercantile ends, although they are particularly susceptible to this type of manipulation. They are precious souls who will either be led to salvation through faith in Jesus Christ, or who will perish eternally. Understanding them and their world is critical.

The bottom line is that despite being essentially a-moral, (which is really another word for immoral, but I’m trying to make a point here,) what this book gives us is a rich and varied view of what is happening in the hearts and minds of an entire generation. The presented conclusions may be perverse, but the observations are detailed and penetrating and allow us to understand and develop Godly and wise responses. This will be the goal of our exploration of Generation Me.

This blog was written by Charles Fox

National Day of Prayer: Prayer for Churches

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Today I had the privilege of partnering with Tom Weber, pastor of Florin Church of the Brethren, to lead the section of prayer focused on churches during the National Day of Prayer Breakfast in Mount Joy at the Gathering Place. May these prayers encourage and guide us to faithfully pray for God’s people:

Holy God, we thank you, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, as we pray for your people, the bride of Christ. May you, the God of hope, fill us with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit we may abound in hope. (Colossians 1:3, Rom 15:13)

Almighty Father, hear us as we pray that our churches would be a pillar and buttress of the truth, that we would remember and believe and faithfully proclaim the gospel of Jesus Christ every day, which is the power of God to salvation for everyone who believes (1 Timothy 3:15, Romans 1:16-17)…


Heavenly Father, we thank you for the grace of God that has been given to your people in Christ Jesus, and we pray that you, the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give us the Spirit of wisdom and of revelation in the knowledge of Christ, having the eyes our our hearts enlightened, that we may know what is the hope to which you have called us, what are the riches of your glorious inheritance in the saints, and what is the immeasurable greatness of your power toward us who believe, according to the working of your great might that you worked in Christ when you raised him from the dead & seated him at your right hand in the heavenly places. 

Hear us as we pray for strength to set our minds on things above as we eagerly wait for your Son’s return (1 Cor 1:4; Ephesians 1:17-23)…

Jesus, you are the good shepherd who laid down his life for the sheep, enable your undershepherds, the pastors of our community, to pay attention to themselves and to all the flock, and to care for the church of God which you have obtained with your own precious blood (Acts 20:28). Hear us as we pray for our pastors…


Jesus you gave us the command to love one another as you have loved us, and you said it is by this love that all people will know we are your disciples. And you prayed that we would be one so that the world may believe that the Father sent you to be the savior of the world. May you make us increase and abound in love for one another and for all. 

Hear us as we pray to love one another as you have loved us (John 13:34-35; John 17:21; 1 Thess 3.12)…


Holy Spirit, enable the manner of life of all our church members to be worthy of the gospel of Christ, that we may stand firm in one spirit, with one mind striving side by side for the faith of the gospel, knowing that we have been granted for the sake of Christ not only to believe in him but also to suffer for his sake (Philippians 1:27-29).

Hear us as we pray for unity and strength centered on the gospel of Jesus Christ and for comfort and perseverance in the midst of suffering…


Holy Spirit, may you fill your people with the knowledge of your will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, so that we may fully please you, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God (Colossians 1:9-14).

Hear us as we pray for our churches to be conformed to the image of Christ, that we would grow in corporate love, holiness, and sound doctrine, such that the testimony of our churches in this community would be distinctively pure and attractive, to the honor and glory of your name…


Almighty, Gracious God, we thank you our Father, for you have qualified us to share in the inheritance of the saints in light. You have delivered us from the domain of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of your beloved Son, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.

Enable us your people to be imitators of you, O God, the God who made us, loves us, and gave himself for us, through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God forever and ever, Amen.

Treasuring God's Truth in Your Heart

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Psalm 27:5-6: More Than Human Victory

Psalm 27:5-6: For he will hide me in his shelter

in the day of trouble;

       he will conceal me under the cover of his tent;

he will lift me high upon a rock.

And now my head shall be lifted up

above my enemies all around me,

       and I will offer in his tent

sacrifices with shouts of joy;

       I will sing and make melody to the Lord. [1]

 Those who do not believe in the Triune God of the Bible may look at these verses and think that David is deceiving himself—that the King of Israel was grasping at straws to endure suffering. Are these the words of someone pretending away pain, or looking to a greater strength than his own? The world cannot understand David’s joy because it is lost in darkness. [2] David’s hope comes from being in Christ, which allows him to “fearlessly disregard the darts of his enemies, which might have otherwise pierced him.” [3]

  Christian hope, like David’s, is insanity to unbelievers. [4] Those who are dead in their sins [5] cannot be expected to have the perseverance believers have in trials. [6] But disbelief is never a reason to lose delight in God. [7] When believers treasure their union with Christ, they have hope in suffering that goes beyond the grave. [8] Truly, when Jesus Christ is the exclusive rock of our salvation we have a more than human victory. [9]

This blog was written by Seth Dunn

[1] The Holy Bible: English Standard Version. Wheaton, IL: Crossway Bibles, 2016). All Scripture References will be ESV unless noted otherwise.

[2] Romans 3:9-23. See also John Calvin. Commentary on the Book of Psalms, Vol. I. Trans. James Anderson. (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Book House, 1979), 456.

[3] Calvin, Psalms, Vol. 1, 455-456.

[4] 1 Corinthians 1:18-31.

[5] Ephesians 2:1-10.

[6] Romans 8; Hebrews 12:1-3; 1 Peter 1:3-5.

[7] Psalm 14.

[8] Calvin, Psalms, Vol. 1, 455. See also John 3:16, 36;

[9] Deuteronomy 32:4; 1 Samuel 2:2; 2 Samuel 22:2, 32; Psalm 18; 28:1; 62:7, 118:22; Isaiah 28:16; Acts 4:10-12; Romans 9:33; Ephesians 2:20-22; 1 Peter 2:4-8; Revelation 19-22.

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Psalm 27:3-4: God’s Presence

Psalm 27:3-4: Though an army encamp against me,

my heart shall not fear;

       though war arise against me,

yet I will be confident.

One thing have I asked of the Lord,

that will I seek after:

       that I may dwell in the house of the Lord

all the days of my life,

       to gaze upon the beauty of the Lord

and to inquire in his temple. [1]

 How should God’s presence affect us? David shows us that the Lord’s presence affects fortitude, enjoyment, and desire. [2] David’s fortitude was affected because his assurance is founded on the Triune God’s steadfast love, which enables him to face his enemies fearlessly. [3] David’s “enjoyment of God’s presence assures the evident goodness and love of God.” [4] Lastly, David’s desire, in the face of danger, is to be in God’s house and know Him. [5] In his fortitude, enjoyment, and desire, David is not just imagining away his struggles. [6] The Trinity’s presence enables David and Christians to face dark adversity with hope.

 How has God’s presence affected your dark adversity? What is your source of fortitude, joy, and desire? Do you take solace in your capabilities? Is your joy found in materials and people? Is your desire for the struggle to just end? We can only have David’s confidence through faith in Jesus Christ. [7]

This blog was written by Seth Dunn

[1] The Holy Bible: English Standard Version. Wheaton, IL: Crossway Bibles, 2016). All Scripture References will be ESV unless noted otherwise.

[2] Willem A. VanGemeren. The Expositor’s Bible Commentary with the New International Version of the Holy Bible in Twelve Volumes: Vol. 5 (Psalms-Song of Songs). General Ed. Frank E. Gaebelein. (Grand Rapids, MI: The Zondervan Corporation, 1991), 243-245.

[3] VanGemeren, Psalms, 244.

[4] VanGemeren, Psalms, 244.

[5] VanGemeren, Psalms, 245.

[6] VanGemeren, Psalms, 244, 245.

[7] 1 Peter 1:3.

Why it is Best to Consider Yourself a Murderer

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Why it is best to consider yourself a murderer.

 

In the end, knowing that you are a murderer at heart opens the door to salvation.

 

“You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘Do not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.’ But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to his brother, ‘Raca,’ is answerable to the Sanhedrin. But anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell.[1]

“You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’ But I tell you, Do not resist an evil person. If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if someone wants to sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. If someone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles. Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you.[2]

“You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven.[3] (RSV)

 

 What do you do when someone hits you, bumps you, insults you, or hurts you in any way? Or, make it simple, what do you think of the person who cuts you off in traffic?

When Jesus preached the Sermon on the Mount he ushered in a new kingdom that turned the whole world upside down and inside out.[4] In his message he raises the standard of inter-relational ethics to impossible standards; well, at least impossible without God, but that is his point. He exposes the natural tendencies of the human heart and critiques the best that man can do with the help of laws to contain those natural impulses. Finally, he requires new attitudes that can only be found in the heart of a person who knows the love and grace of God and who has been transformed and equipped to live and love as a new creation.

Our normal human tendency, when we are slapped, is to escalate the violence. An accidental bump in the marketplace or an inadvertent word becomes an offense which leads to a grudge and becomes a feud which is passed on to the generations. The response to a slap is to find a baseball bat which leads to a bigger stick, and then a gun and finally, in the end, to murder. Murder leads to murder, family hates family, clan hates clan, and nations go to war long past the point where the original bump in the marketplace has passed into legend.

Understanding this natural tendency, God gave the ancient Israelites a higher standard of justice. In Exodus 21, the chapter right after the presentation of the Ten Commandments, God lays out a system of justice that was often summarized with verses 23 and 24, “But if there is harm, then you shall pay life for life, eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot, burn for burn, wound for wound, stripe for stripe.” (ESV) Although the imagery is slightly gory, this simple statement is the starting point for any contemplation of justice. Rather than having an offense escalate, any system of justice should maintain a balanced system where the recompense for an offense is proportional and also satisfies the circumstance so there is no ongoing escalation of uncontrolled “repayments.”[5]
Jesus points to this view of the law as a useful starting point to overturn the self-righteousness of man. If someone hurts us, under the law, we want to pat ourselves on the back and say that we only took back what we deserved. “He slapped me, I slapped him. We’re even.”[6] At one level this is just; but Jesus has something so much greater in mind. In our normal, law-less mode we are slapped and we want to destroy our neighbor. Under the law we are slapped and after a slap back, we walk away hating each other. In the upside-down kingdom, Jesus wants us, when we are slapped, to return utter vulnerability in the hope that our response of grace will lead to a restored and improved relationship.

Jesus wants to set a new standard and a new goal. He wants the standard to be love matching God’s love and the goal to be new-found and restored relationship. In our natural state the goal is destruction and there is no hope of restoration or relationship, in fact, we don’t even seek it. Under the law we are slapped and we want to terminate the relationship on equal terms. The goal is to walk away hating each other but at least not making things worse. The best we can hope for is, “He slapped me, I slapped him, we’re even… the jerk.”

But in the upside-down kingdom Jesus wants us, in the face of an offense, to respond with love and get as compensation … nothing. Moreover, he wants us to offer more than what is expected or required. Instead of justice that is even[7], when someone hits us, he wants us to offer the other cheek also.

Let’s ponder why Jesus uses the image of a slap. Being slapped in the face is more than just painful, it is a challenge or an insult. It is an intimate gesture and a personal affront. Jesus raises the bar, using an image of a destruction of fellowship that is face to face, deliberate and coldly unavoidable. We know who struck us and we know the slap was delivered with a purpose. In return, the Godly response is not only that we don’t return the slap, which would be “just” under the law, but we don’t even try to defend ourselves against the indignity. We don’t seek to defend ourselves, because we have a new goal – restoration.

When someone strikes us, or insults us, or shuns us, or hurts us in any way, we are immediately placed at a relational crossroads. Our response will either end the relationship (or start down that road) or restore the relationship. Instead of being satisfied with the end of relationship, turning the other cheek means that we chase down the person who struck us and offer them a chance to try again and to not strike the other cheek. Our driving passion is to restore the relationship through the love of God with no immediate consideration given to what has been done to us or whether we have been hurt. There may be consequences or reparations or issues to resolve, but that is a later part of the process to be worked out later.

Even the most superficial evaluation of this upside-down way of living should stun us. Not only would this attitude transform all human relationships, but through careful assessment of our own selfish hearts, we immediately realize that this attitude is impossible to cultivate without a profound transformation, first, of our whole lives. We need a new understanding, a new perspective, one that overturns our natural way of thinking. We need our hearts totally transformed from self-centeredness to utter selflessness. Even our best actions and habits need to be re-directed as new fruit of a transformed concept of the goal of restoration. The action of turning the other cheek can only be the result of a revolutionized way of thinking and a heart that has been transformed by God.

Jesus knew this and made it clear as he ushered in the upside-down kingdom. He discusses murder as a way to reveal our hearts in a penetrating and inescapable way. We all know that murder is at the extreme end of relational destruction. Jesus uses murder because it is such an absolute that we all understand. He traps us because He he doesn’t want us to be able to somehow claim self-righteously, “I’m okay because I haven’t murdered anyone.” His new kingdom trap works like this; “If you even call someone a fool, that is the same a murder.”[8] This challenge does three things. First of all, we must realize that we are all guilty of murder – nobody can make the claim, “I’m okay.” To identify a murderer, we no longer need a dead body, the proof starts in our innermost thoughts.

Secondly, he pushes the ethical requirement off the scales (just like turning the other cheek). It isn’t good enough to not murder someone, you can’t even think ill of a person. This forces upon us a crushing implication – if we are not to think ill of a person, that means that we must think well of everyone. Jesus makes this clear when he talks about how to treat our enemies. Imagine someone who is deliberately pursuing your destruction. Not just careless, not merely thoughtless, not simply inconsiderate; the person wants to hurt you, destroy your reputation, take away your wealth and he is doing everything possible to carry out his harmful intentions against you. Jesus says, “Love that person.” <<Insert animated GIF of a jaw dropping here.>> And here is the shocker, to your enemy, to love your enemy, you can’t be careless, or thoughtless, or inconsiderate. It isn’t enough to merely not be offended – you can’t be indifferent. Your love needs to be thoughtful, purposeful, and deliberate. You need to do everything possible to carry out your loving plans to that enemy as he seeks to destroy you. Jesus wants you to pray for that person, give him your things, and invite him into your home. You don’t merely avoid your enemy, you chase after him to present your other cheek for slapping.

Thirdly, and this is true any time we see the standard of God, we are faced with our absolute helplessness and our desperate need for God’s grace to be in us and filling us. On our own we are the murderers, we are the enemy to those around us. Under the Law, the best that we can hope for is to produce a legalistic response where we restrain physical murder. But mere restraint will never free us from being murderers in our hearts nor will it free us to love anyone else no matter who they are. C.S. Lewis wrote a poem that brings this to life, As the Ruin Falls. In it he says,

 

“All this is flashy rhetoric about loving you.
I never had a selfless thought since I was born.
I am mercenary and self-seeking through and through:
I want God, you, all friends, merely to serve my turn.[9]

 

This is why Jesus tells us to love our neighbors as ourselves. The only love that we can produce on our own is a self-centered, self-seeking, greedy love of Me. That is our natural state. Under the law we can (maybe) rise high enough to keep our external actions from revealing the inner selfishness. To love our neighbors and enemies, to turn the other cheek, to free ourselves from murder, we need to be transformed into people who are filled with the grace of God and live by it.

What Jesus said in these verses is hard to take. Most of us see ourselves as “really a pretty good person.” Human culture shoves this concept down our throats. We are endlessly pummeled with the message that we are “basically good” from psychologists, politicians and celebrities.[10]  It is pleasant and comforting and nice when people say this to us, because it is what we want to believe anyway. However, in our more private and introspective moments we sometimes admit that we have “made mistakes.” This statement is normally linked most logically to some kind of statement like, “but everybody makes mistakes,” which is supposed to justify our littler less significant mistakes. Or if someone presses us into a corner, we admit that we “might have done something wrong,” but in the perfect extreme defense we add, “well, maybe, but I haven’t killed anyone.” And at long last, we are finally trapped by the words of Jesus.

Physical murder is not the standard anymore. It is easy for most of us to keep from actual murder. But, if you murder someone in your heart, if you look down on someone, if you dismiss or disregard someone, ignore or show indifference, you are a murderer. And ironically our primary defense reveals that this is what we do all the time. We explain away our sins by comparing ourselves to someone else. In the end, we exalt ourselves in the condemnation of others. We see that we are a little bit wrong, but that other person is the real fool. Raca! If only those people were like me! Raca! That jerk cut me off! Raca! We condemn everyone as a fool every time they don’t meet up to our standards. And when we do that, we become murderers.

Jesus wants us to see ourselves as murderers because that strips away all of our self-confidence and self-sufficiency. If you see yourself as a murderer, you realize that you are worse off than your worst fears.[11] This gives us a desperate humility. We gain a new perspective of ourselves, a new perspective of others, a new perspective on our situation, and a new appreciation of our need for the grace of God.

Your new self-perspective, crushing as it is, puts you at the utter bottom of the moral stack, where you can finally be free and stop thinking so highly of yourself. You certainly can’t look at anyone else and claim that you are somehow better. From this point of view, when someone slaps you, the indignation is gone, because you know that you are a slapper, too. Still though, it is hard being slapped. How do we overcome?

The only deliverance from our state of desperate humility is through faith in Jesus Christ. He received the Ultimate Slap, the rejection of his own heavenly Father and the punishment of all the sins of mankind. He bore every insult, bump, anger, murder, hatred, and indignation, so that we don’t have to. When we look at Jesus and seize desperately upon his nail-scarred hand, we can finally find what we need to overlook the bump, terminate the feud, and chase down our enemies to offer them another swing at our cheek.

This blog was written by Charles Fox

[1] The Holy Bible: New International Version. 1984 (Mt 5:21–22). Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.

[2] Blomberg, C. (1992). Vol. 22: Matthew. The New American Commentary (113). Nashville: Broadman & Holman Publishers.

[3] The Holy Bible: New International Version. 1984 (Mt 5:43–45). Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.

[4] It is important to note that all of these principles were already revealed in the Old Testament, the difference is that the nature of the kingdom changes when the King arrives.

[5] Please note that there is NO sense of punishment in this system. Compensation and restoration is the assumed purpose of justice. The goal is never to “make him pay for what he did.” Jesus, of course, pushes that to the limit in the Sermon on the Mount. It is valuable to note that as a culture moves further and further from God, this sense of proportion is increasingly lost.

[6] Which misses the point anyway. Even this view of law should awaken us to an “Aha!” moment. How does hitting someone back accomplish anything of value? Any opportunity for reconciliation, or to show the other person their fault through our grace and forgiveness is lost.

[7] At home, the natural tendency is that everyone gets the exact same amount of cake. The proper response is that if someone takes ALL of the cake and I don’t get ANY, that is ok. As Christians, our goal is not “what is fair in my eyes,” but sacrifice for the delight of others.

[8] A spoken word is more than just noise that comes out of our mouths. What we say reflects the profoundest beliefs and commitments of our hearts. When we call a person “Fool!” we are making a pronouncement of purpose and commitment. When we denigrate another, we are saying what we think they are worth, and what they deserve, and what we would do to them if we had the means. In the context of our discussion, it makes us the enemy who wants to destroy the person, that is, we are the murderer. Jesus nails us and our narcissistic world further when he uses the word “Raca.” Raca means empty, that is, you are “Raca,” you are nothing. This passive indifference that treats someone as if they are nothing is perhaps even worse than murder. Every human is of infinite consequence, and for us to dismiss anyone as meaningless is as far from love as you can get.

[9] C.S.Lewis, Poems, “As the Ruin Falls” (1st pub. 1964), pp. 109-110.

[10] The irony is that what they are really saying is, “I am a good person,” with no basis for such a preposterous claim. Since there is no way to prove this, the only remaining logic left is to make a claim that all people are good, and it is just the rare other person who has somehow gone wrong. Five minutes in the real world dispels the fantasy that bad people are “rare.”

[11] Jack Miller would tell us in church over and over – “Cheer up! You’re a worse sinner than you dared imagine, and you’re more loved than you ever dared hope.”